You have a great idea, all the materials at hand, or even chores to do and…you’ll do it!…tomorrow. Tomorrow, and tomorrow, and tomorrow! — BadWitch
Readers Are Spellbound & Perplexed…
Dear GWBW —I have a really bad habit. I am a procrastinator. I always was since I was in high school. Some how I always get things got done, but now that I’m 33, it’s not so funny. How do I get my life on track and motivation that will stick? I wanted to write you guys last winter ha ha!! — Not Pictured
Dear Not Pictured,
Ok that was funny and you made me laugh…in retrospect. Seriously, procrastination is just delayed decisions (usually if not ironically of over-perfectionism), so make up your mind to get your life moving, already, and it will be. What do you most fear from moving forward, Not Pictured? Making a mistake, a wrong decision? Failing? Disappointing someone(s)? Low self-esteem? It is entirely possible to fail by not making any move whatsoever. I think you’re seeing and feeling for yourself that what was once a “cute” habit, possibly charmingly absentmindedness when you were younger, is catching up with you in lost time, opportunities and personal development advancements — and have you noticed the older you get, others are less willing to make excuses for you? Even above laziness, it is your fear (and you’ll have to do the work of figuring out exactly what keeps you most frozen) that is keeping you in this holding pattern. Stand up, put one foot in front of the other, and when you first teeter, don’t worry about what other people think, remember which direction you were heading, and then firmly plant down…your other foot. You can do it (now)!
No time like the present,
Dear Not Pictured,
Procrastination. Fun to say. Fun in the moment. Sucks at deadline.
Let’s just call a spade, a spade. Why are you sabotaging yourself? You want things, have plans, make commitments and then drop the ball way before the end zone in the hopes you can pick it up from your prolonged fumble and score in the last minute. Are you kidding me? Does that sound like someone working to achieve their dreams?
Get a calendar, manage your time and get some discipline. Decide to give yourself plenty of time between working on the project and when it is due whenever you can. That way when life throws you a curve ball (and it will) you have the time and space to handle it. Of course, there will be times where there is just too much to get done and all due at once. But, most of the time, we create scenarios like this for ourselves because somewhere deep down either you don’t believe you deserve [Your Dream Here] or you don’t think you can have it. Know that you can have and do deserve all the good in life. You just have to work for it—in a timely fashion.
The world will not wait for you to catch up and opportunity may only knock once. Want to be ready, get your time management skills in order. Calendar your To Do list. Set an alarm if you need to move from one project to the next. But get the work done. You will be nicer to yourself and the work because you won’t feel so rushed and under pressure.
True story. After years of not having nightmares, I had a bad one. I was being chased by a killer. I had heard of lucid dreaming and facing your nightmares, and actually had the wherewithal to turn around face my would-be killer and scream, “Why are you doing this to me. I don’t deserve this!” The nightmare killer said, “You’re the one with all that overdue work on your desk.” Yes, the guilt of my procrastination had followed me into my sleep to poke and prod me.
So, I say this with love and understanding, “Stop screwing around and get to work!” Listen, you know what you’ve got to do, apply yourself and do it. Make yourself a priority, because no one else can do that for you.
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